Funerals are never easy. But there is a certain beauty about them returning after the pandemic. They allow us to celebrate life and reflect on all the wonderful aspects of someones life. They may not be the happiest of days, but this blog should be able to help you fight the fear of sadness and appreciate the opportunity we now have to celebrate life.
The Absence of Funerals
Having funerals taken away from us was hard for everyone. Not being able to remember and celebrate someone's life with the comfort of friends and relatives around us made us all feel a number of emotions.
Anger was felt by a lot of us, and it was also frustrating knowing we could do nothing about it. Especially with Boris having his parties whilst all this was going on, but I won't talk about that, I don't want us all to get too annoyed right now!
There was also a lot of sadness, understandably. Funerals are sad enough without the freedom of being able to attend them being taken away from us. Although losing someone is an awful experience and I wouldn't wish it on anyone, we should be able to say goodbye to them in the right way, and the fact we couldn't do this increased the heartache of losing someone.
Preparing to return to a funeral
The thought of having to return to a funeral can be scary, especially since no one has been to one in over nearly 2 years. But, this fear doesn't mean it should ruin your chance of celebrating the life of the person who's funeral you are attending.
Here are some tips to help you prepare:
Allow yourself to be sad. This is important, it's easy to beat yourself up about keeping composure during a funeral, but being upset is such a normal reaction to a tragic loss and it is healthy for you to let yourself cry it out.
Always be respectful. Being polite mannered at a funeral allows you to show your respect in the best way and lets everyone around you know that you support the celebration of the person's life.
Interact. Allow yourself to interact with the other guests there and share your feelings and own stories regarding the lost loved one to people. This will help you relate to others there and will also ease your feelings of sadness.
Seeing friends and family at a funeral can be heartbreaking as you are grieving over the same person. Sharing your sadness and talking to one another about how you are feeling can help you to understand your own feelings and also allow you to help others who are going through the same emotions as you.
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